By Cassandra Sagan Webb

“These are perilous days to be a woman, but to be sure, they’re the only days we have and they’re passing quickly. We can sit around like victims, talk about how unfair all the gender pressure is, and grow less secure by the second, or we can choose to become well equipped and get out there and do some real living.”

That passage from Beth Moore’s book, So Long, Insecurity hooked me from the get-go. I don’t normally read “self-help books,” but I thought this book, simply based on its title alone, would be one worth opening. I’m so glad I did!

After last month’s depressing book, The Liars’ Club: A Memoir, I opted to read something a bit more positive this go around. I wanted something to be uplifting and to make me feel better. Beth Moore accomplished that goal easily.

So Long, Insecurity, although a Christian faith-based book, is capable of appealing to everyone, no matter what their belief system. Don’t believe in God and therefore don’t qualify as a candidate to read this book? You’re wrong. All you need to ask yourself is, “Have I ever felt insecure?” I’d bet the answer is yes. No matter who you are. (Note: This book is geared toward the woman’s heart, but it could easily appeal to men, as well. Women aren’t the only ones who get secure, y’all).

Moore’s book is full of little pearls of wisdom and compelling quotes. She really gives us something to chew on.

For instance: “Insecurity’s best cover is perfectionism. That’s where it becomes an art form.” Or “The need to be considered the greatest is always rooted in the gnawing fear that we’re not.”


This book really resonated with me. Like most gals in their late 20s, I grapple with the glaring fact that I simply do not look like the 18-year-old me anymore…or even the 24-year-old me. I weigh 30 pounds more, my jean size is definitely in the double digits, and my body bears the tell-tale signs of childbirth: wide hips and stretch marks galore. Chances are, I’ll never look like that again…and this book helped me to realize that that is okay. It really is.

Although most women struggle with insecurity regarding their looks, we struggle with a multitude of many other things, as well. I’ll never get that job, I’m too inexperienced. My husband would be happier with someone else. My mother-in-law thinks I’m a terrible mother.  I would look foolish in that dress. I can’t go to my husband’s business dinner – I’m not confident enough to start a conversation with a stranger. The list goes on and on, doesn’t it?

If you struggle with insecurity in any area of your life, I highly recommend picking up Beth Moore’s book. Whether you’re a Christian or not, she will equip you with tools on how to “deal” with those insecurity issues and will definitely offer you encouragement as you begin your journey to become a more confident individual.

And although I may not look like this anymore…

I do look like this.

And I have her. Which makes me so happy I feel like I could fly, stretch marks and all.


Written by The Sundown United

The SUNDOWN UNITED is a multi-faceted project that houses an apparel and accessories brand, and online-magazine(weblogs/articles). All ends of and begins with the Sundown United our trademark, lifestyle, attitude, and personal perspective on Americana art/lifestyle subculture.

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